Words Are Windows (Or They’re Walls)
It’s been a while since I posted here – this site has been under construction and it’s been taking me ages to get it sorted out. And life happened. But I’m sort of back now. Ish.
I have been wanting to share this with you for some time now. It’s a fantastic poem that appears in a wonderful book I read from Marshall Rosenberg – Nonviolent Communication. Everyone should read this book in my opinion. Rosenberg talks about how we can use the right language to avoid, calm and resolve conflict. He talks about we unintentionally hurt others with our words, without even realising it. And he reveals how liberating it can be when we learn to listen to the feelings behind what is being said.
By Ruth Bebermeyer
This poem appears in Marshall Rosenberg’s book “Nonviolent Communications.”
I feel so sentenced by your words,
I feel so judged and sent away,
Before I go I’ve got to know
Is that what you mean to say?
Before I rise to my defense,
Before I speak in hurt or fear,
Before I build that wall of words,
Tell me, did I really hear?
Words are windows, or they’re walls,
They sentence us, or set us free.
When I speak and when I hear,
Let the love light shine through me.
There are things I need to say,
Things that mean so much to me,
If my words don’t make me clear,
Will you help me to be free?
If I seemed to put you down,
If you felt I didn’t care,
Try to listen through my words
To the feelings that we share.